Life's lesson...

there comes a day in my life when it teaches u some important lessons... today i write, not abt the mistake but what i learnt post that.

1) never make a mistake in life that u will regret and cant repair
2) never sideline what u feel n think is right and wrong
3) never stay away from speaking your mind and specially your doubts
4) even if u want to make it as right as it can get, not always will you be given a chance to make it alright.
5) very few people have the ability to move ahead of the problem and look for a solution as immediately as knowing abt the problem
6) very few people have the ability to look beyond the mistake and judge a person for who he is and not because of the mistake
7) very few people make the choice of face the problem in totality and not eliminate the easiest link of the problem.
8) the mind and thinking of someone comes out in the worth situation, how good or bad a person can be, can think, can talk, can feel saaf dikhayi deta hai in a bad situation..
9) never judge a person by how he reacts to a situation specially when hes at the receiving end.. judge them by how they handle the situation..
10) sometimes when u cant do anything, getting out of the way may be the only solution to the problem, till at a later date, it comes and bites u in the ass.

and theres more.... 

Biography of my friends

Working on a series of blog posts that will talk about people who matter to me.. friends.. family goes another direction... a list of awesome individuals who have taught me to be better in life only by their presence. they arent preachers, intellectuals (very brainy).. just regular friends who have had a grt influence in my life!! :) i dedicate this section of my blog  to each one of them. :)
i hope they like it and realise their importance and the effect they have had on me!! :)
this is in no particular order, just posted things that i felt were good to be read and somewhat complete...

these are people most of my friends would know, if you dont know them, pls feel free to know them, they are the best of what u can find! :) i am lucky to have them in my life!!

my way of saying "thank you" for being in my life and letting me learn from you most of the times without u knowing abt it!! :)

zindagi......

What choice do u have when life throws you off the path you chose. The only choice is to face it, accept it and move on.. But what do u do in those weak moments when u feel all alone, ur inner self aching.. That knot in your chest!! Familiar feeling?? Hopefully not for long!!
U know there's so much you can do and there nothing U can do to change the situation!! Call it destiny, fate, just not meant to be.. Excuses, reasons and the easy way out!! Blame it on external stuff.. The end to that argument.. The end to that thought!!! Blocking it from eating u inside.. Making u think.. Making u realise how unfair life seems yet again!!
The mind decides but the heart rules!!! Hope the heart decides what the mind know to be able to live throught these weak moments... Hopefully not too many or too frequent!!

Golden years of my life

looking back at the last few years, i am now realising that i can call them the Golden years of my life. personally!! these years have made me realise that its important to understand and realise the power of a strong influence in your life. someone who can hold u, make you laugh, make you cry too sometimes but be there to wipe your tears, make you strong, make you wise, make you live life a little better than the prev day. make you richer, make you healtier, make you eat spice, make you sensible, make you impulsive, make you love more!! :) i have had a nice time going through these 2 years, and don't want to move on from them to see what comes next. there are things i wish for.. wishing that this time would never change, this wouldnt end, this is just the begining of the journey for me but... life and destiny has other plans.. if only it felt as right as the last few yrs.. i dedicate these Golden Years to the reason they are the golden years!! :) thank you and wish there are more of these years!!

boundaries of thinking

are v restricted in our understanding and thinking by what v know.. Is knowledge or the lack of knowledge a barrier to expanding ur understanding of the world.. Does the phrase “put urself in someone elses shoes” make any sense then!! The management jargon of empathize with your consumer.. Isn't that also limited to ur understanding of the situation..
what got me thinking on this was the fact that my projection or opinion of a situation on TV, on film, in real life is in the same lines as what i am exposed to, what i think, what i feel, what i know. hence the level of misunderstanding or not knowing the feeling/thoughts behind what someone else does. thats goes for the other people too.. would anyone not get what i do for them or just in general cause they dont have the level of understanding or exposure to the thoughts that are running in my mind.. thats the world for you!! different people from diff walks of lifes giving u a sign of diff aspects and exposure to life.. another lesson to learn!!

Post a long silence!!

Life has been a routine.. a lazy sunday todays has made me open this page again to ponder on how life's been...

frankly life seems to be a blank page.. :) or too routined for anything different to pop out!! :) hahah.. strange specially when u think abt the events that have happened.. there are loads of fantastic moments that come alive.. eye for detail or a mind for one!!

celebrated 4 events in life.. 3 bdays and 1 anniversary.. 2 my own, 2 of the people i care. my bday on the 3rd and my 2 yr job joining anniversary on the 4th - i tell everyone, it was planned that way to keep the celebration on through 2 days. 2 others was my dads bday on the 1st and a good friends bday on the 22nd. :) so has been a celebrating time for me.

delhi trip for work - roads on delhi are long, wide and very confusing. good food, VERY COLD, and lots of lots of fog. had the rare privilege of walking abt 2 kms in that fog at 230am. hhehe!! awesome exp. couldnt feel my face or my hands after that walk. :)))

good drive, grt car - a friends i20, traffic traffic and traffic on the road till the time the hindmata bridge was not opened, exercise at home (gym money being wasted), control on diet.. quite a big list!! :)

having a good time, with the usual cribbing always there but thats not to be focused on. :)

till something else happens.. adios!!

Wake up sid!!

wake up sid turned to be a good watch.. time well spent!! the story line like most hindi films was predictable.. u knew what was going to happen in the next 5 mins of the movie beforehand!! except of a couple of occasions!! like when aisha walks out of the house in the middle of the night because of the mess.. shes not on the terrace but at sonia's place.. :)

this is not going to be a movie review but a cute and not so cute insights of the movie from me!! read it and enjoy!!

Disclaimer: if u dont enjoy..well u cant do anything expect mite be leave a comment (which i can delete too.. :D) .. i am the writer here!!

PS: sounding pompous.. nopes!! just the truth!!

cute and not so cute insights!!

- aisha from calcutta wanting to make it big in bombay - people like me who have grown up in bombay take the opportunities this city has to offer for granted!! i believe theres no place like bombay..

- sid knowing/realizing that his father too was a photographer at some time and he got his eye for photography cause of that... i know very little abt my parents - what they did... when they were young, when they were my age, when they got married cause thats when they started dating the same person (i am assuming), when they wanted to have some fun, their hobbies, their fav passtime.. hmmm.. questions i have never asked my parents!! i think i should..

- love finds u in the strangest of places!! u never know when or where love can hit u and u never ever know how u would react when u realise!! stereotypes of the perfect boyfriend/ perfect husband or my type of guy dont hold true when love hits u!!

- bandra reclamation has a fantastic terrace view flats.. me want one!! :D

anyways i liked the movie.. like all movies which depend on how much u take off them...

Wake up sid rocked for me.. got me off my slumber!!

What goes around comes around!! ??

is it true!! is it really true that what goes around always comes around!!
are u in some way responsible for all the happiness and the sorrow that u face in life!! do u have a tallied balance sheet at the end of ur life!! should have asked my grandfather, is it time for u to die when u have balanced out ur life.. the goods to the bads, the joys to the sorrows.. when do u realize that and how do u know that ur sorrows and joys are equated cause to me the sorrows generally feel much bigger than the joys!! on hindside, only after the sorrows are gone do u realize that they needed to be there... profound thinking...

Anyways!! what i meant while thinking of that was more positive and happy!! If u r happy today, u have or would have done something good at some point in time in ur life.. The Geeta says that "karm kar phal ki iccha mat kar" which 2nds my thought of "what goes around comes around".. then the key item to this is PATIENCE. its not like good deeds come with a validity or a limited period offer, so u know that for this good deed done today, i shall be happy on this day in the future. u just have to wait and might never know that the happiness caused today was because of which good deed. :)

Another side to this line can be, what goes to another person, comes back to u from that person. so if u r good to someone, they inturn generally are good to u too.. which makes more sense and relevance. :) mite be thats why people in love generally make each other happy continuously, in more ways that one, in much higher magnitudes than before.. what goes around.. comes around!! :) too many new angels coming up with this thought... most times than less (at least with me) the level of involvement for 2 people are diff at the same time, which means that the magnitude of what goes around isnt the same as what comes around or cld also mean that what u give could mean a lot more than u think or intended too, which might be the reason for dissatisfaction, expectations not being met and the inequality in what goes around coming around. so how do u map that.. the solution to all of this is talking, communication.. (this is turning out to be a self-improvement life topic.. :D)..

third side to this line.. what abt the things that u do unknowingly, without the intention to hurt.. are circumstances or mistakes in life also counted as good deeds and bad deeds?? does that also come around and what if u r truly sorry for what happens and in some cases have paid the price for it too.. would that still come around??

bottom line, what goes around does come around, in more forms that one, in more ways that one, in diff magnitudes and appearance than one. so watch out the next time u yell at some telecaller, some bank exec, in the traffic, at ur friends.. they mite just give it back to u.. :)..

happy coming around!!

Validation

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cbk980jV7Ao

Reshma, a very dear friend forwarded this short movie on youtube to see.. from the name i thought it would be a self motivational speech kinds, but cause it was a short film, it felt like it would be a story with a message. its only after u see it that u realize that Validation is beyond giving u a message on how to live life or how to be happy but actually shows u the complete effect of 1 small nice gesture by this one man who has a normal job and a normal life.

He "validates" everyone who came to get their parking validated at his counter. he is a parking attendant. a few genuine complements from him actually had such a profound effect on the people that they queued up to feel nice because of his words.

The change point in this man's life was when he fails to make the woman he falls in love with, smile. thats when he looses the will to make people smile and feel nice abt themselves. he gets back to making people feel nice when he sees a young couple out on vacation wanting him to take their snap. He makes them smile from their hearts because of the words he says.. he reminds them of the love they share and how lucky they are. He started getting smiles off people while taking their photographs. one such photo was of an old lady in a wheelchair who because of what he said had a very very beautiful smile on her face.

The worlds a small place, this lady happens to be the mother of the woman he loves and she starts to smile only cause her mom smiles... thats the best part of the story.. his dream to be with the one he loves and to roam the world with her, that comes true!!

the picture pasted is the last few mins of the film.. seemed to be the most beautiful end to it..

2 things that make u smile are the people around u, strangers or people u care abt. when people u care abt smile, u smile from ur heart, ur eyes lit up and u stay that way for a long time. when strangers make u smile, the day seems brighter. this stranger's gesture can be a nice smile, a kind word, a complement or just a pleasant face. if i am the stranger, when u think of it, not very difficult things to do.. simple but still not done!! :)
looks like simple things in life get ignored!! :)

hoping to do the simple things in life..

When life seems to be a rerun!!

sometimes life gets to a point when today seems the same as yesterday or the day before that or the day before that... routine is alright sometimes, u get up, get ready, go to work, come back, eat and sleep.. but when the traffic conditions along with the kind of cars are also the same on the road, it does become a rerun or a "deja vu" kinds..

Unfortunately the condition on the roads is so awesome, that u have the time to check out the colour, make, number plate, the toy handing off the rear view mirror, the seat covers and also the people with what they are doing.. u kinda develop a relationship with them, without them knowing.. they become ur road buddies.. :D
thats another blog taking abt road buddies and things that happen on the road and how u master the exact time to touch a place so that traffic is the least.. have a thesis on that which very surprisingly holds true and is proved everyday..

back to the reruns!!
reruns in a way are good, cause there no extra effort, its like sleeping.. u r so used to it that its just something u do.. no thought.. if life was all abt reruns, it would be life.. people will be in 1 state of mind forever which would be boring.. TV serials also have a limited reruns after which they run out their own life. but Exceptions always there - "Friends" those reruns dont die.. :)

going in for another rerun episode of my life.. going home!! :) catch u later in the 2nd repeat of the same rerun!!

Have you ever really loved a woman!!

Have you ever really loved a woman!! -- Bryan Adams

i wonder if this song is dream, a fantasy to know any woman so well.. and why are such songs only written abt woman... even in these times are men supposed to do all the work.. too much load on the poor man and then they say "its a man's world"
it could also be that theres so much to write abt the woman breed.. they are so interesting.. (or complicated.. :) )
i just like this song!! utterly romantic...

Do you really love a woman?
to understand her, you gotta know her deep inside
her every thought, see every dream
and give her wings if she wants to fly
nd when you find yourself lying helpless in her arms
you know you really love a woman

When you love a woman
and tell her that shes really wanted
when you love a woman then tell her that shes the one
Because she needs somebody, to tell her that its gonna last forever
so tell me have you ever really, really ever loved a woman

To really love a woman, let her hold you
till you kno she needs to be touched
you gotta breathe her, you gotta taster her
till you can feel her in your blood
when you can see her unborn children, in her eyes
you know you really love a woman

When you love a woman
and tell her that shes really wanted
when you love a woman then tell her that shes the one
Because she needs somebody, to tell her that youll always be together
so tell me have you ever really, really ever loved a woman

Oh you've got to give some faith, hold her tight
a little tenderness, you gotta treat her right
she will be there when you take good care her
ohh you gotta love your woman yeah

And when you find yourself lyting helpless in her arms
you know you really love a woman

Just tell me have you really, really every loved a woman
Ohh just tell me have you ever really really ever loved...

She's Always a Woman to me

She's Always a Woman to me - Billy Joel

A person would can bear so many tantrums, moods, ideas, shades, brain waves, thoughts et c etc etc is an awesome human being... but when u really read the lyrics, it is human shades being put in one line.. if u know and can handle this specially abt a woman, u know her in and out and can live happily ever after (hopefully)... unless your tastes change and the mystery element abt your woman is lost!!

She can kill with a smile, she can wound with her eyes
She can ruin your faith with her casual lies
And she only reveals what she wants you to see
She hides like a child, but she's always a woman to me

She can lead you to love, she can take you or leave you
She can ask for the truth, but she'll never believe you
And she'll take what you give her as long it's free
Yeah, She steals like a thief, but she's always a woman to me

Ohhh... she takes care of herself
She can wait if she wants, she's ahead of her time
Ohhh... and she never gives out
And she never gives in, she just changes her mind

And she'll promise you more than the garden of Eden
Then she'll carelessly cut you and laugh while you're bleeding
But she’ll bring out the best and the worst you can be
Blame it all on yourself 'cause she's always a woman to me

She's frequently kind and she's suddenly cruel
She can do as she pleases, she's nobody's fool
And she can't be convicted, she's earned her degree
And the most she will do is throw shadows at you,
But she's always a woman to me